FAQ

How long does it usually take for Twitter verification team to respond after the form has been filled?
If your form is properly filled, 5 working days (US).This is what I remember reading. Am I right, Twitter (company)?—ARN
How do I respond to a request for a restraining order? Do I need to fill out a form?
As asked of me specifically,The others are right, you will likely need a lawyer. But to answer your question, there is a response form to respond to a restraining order or order of protection. Worst case the form is available at the courthouse where your hearing is set to be heard in, typically at the appropriate clerk's window, which may vary, so ask any of the clerk's when you get there.You only have so many days to respond, and it will specify in the paperwork.You will also have to appear in court on the date your hearing is scheduled.Most courts have a department that will help you respond to forms at no cost. I figure you are asking because you can't afford an attorney which is completely understandable.The problem is that if you aren't represented and the other person is successful in getting a temporary restraining order made permanent in the hearing you will not be allowed at any of the places the petitioner goes, without risking arrest.I hope this helps.Not given as legal advice-
How can I become more talkative? I have to plan and memorize every answer in job interviews, and I’m terrible at talking for prolonged periods. In social situations, I deflect attention by asking questions. How can I learn to be comfortable talking?
I hate small talk too. I was known for being quiet. People would ask: “Are you shy?“And I would say: “No, just quiet.” Until I get to know you and like you, then I talk your ear off about the origin of the universe or how mind numbing being alive is. But when in a social setting it can be rough if you try and force it.The worst thing you can do is try to plan out what you’re going to say.It’s going to be rough for you at first. But the better and more natural you are, the best you’ll be off. The best way to not talk is to ask questions. I call it: “Talking without talking.”People love to talk about themselves, and as long as you follow this up with some basic steps, you’ll be unstoppable! Muahahaha!Basic steps:Eye contact about 60–75% of the time.Pay attention as if it was the most important thing you’ve ever heard.Don’t try and think of a response while their talking, just listen.Don't rush to fill the silence, it’s OK for their to be moments of quiet.Let them empty the bucket, don’t interrupt.Smile & Laugh! :)Now that we have these basics, pretty easy right?OK, here are some helpful ways to think about approaching any conversation when you’re an “introvert” although I hate labels. My psychologist girlfriend drove this home for me.Instead when meeting someone and saying: “How you are?” (Because this leads to dead end conversations, with the “I’m good, you?” “I’m good too, thanks.” … crickets...)Say something like:“Hi, what's your name?”“Oh, I’m Dan, nice to meet you!”“So what’s your favorite thing to do, what do you love about life?”Another good one is:“Tell me something I don’t know.”You see this gets them talking, just play off them, eventually, they'll tell you their jobs, dreams, and goals. From here, it’s open field. Be sure to tell them your passions and be sure to tell them something they don’t know! You’ll be surprised at how fast 30 minutes can go by talking to a complete stranger.Thanks for the A2A, Sean!
I'm filling out the employment verification form online for KPMG and realized that it's not asking me for phone numbers to my previous employers. Just curious as to how they verify employment without me providing a contact number to call?
Many US employers today won’t allow individuals (coworkers, supervisors) at a company respond to any questions or write recommendations. Everything must go through HR and they will often only confirm dates of employment.I know this, so I’m not going to waste time contacting phone numbers/email lists of supposed former coworkers or managers. Fact is, if anyone answered and started responding to my questions, I’d be very suspicious. Instead, I just ask for the main number of the company — which I can look up on line and verify to be the actual number of the claimed company.Same deal with academic credentials. I’m not going to use your address for “Harvard” … the one with a PO Box in Laurel, KS. I’m going to look up the address for the registrar myself.Sorry to say, there’s far too much lying on resumes today, combined with the liability possible for a company to say anything about you. A common tactic is to lie about academic back ground while giving friends as your “former supervisor at XYZ.”
Is it legal for companies to charge a previous employee a fee for filling out an employment verification form?
I’m not a lawyer, but I’d say you don’t have to pay. The law, as I know it, requires former employers to confirm your dates of employment and title. If your former employer demands you pay a fee for this, ask for the demand in writing (say you need it for financial records), then send a copy of that demand to the company you applied to, and your state’s Office of the Attorney General or Labor Department. The demand on email would also work, as would a voicemail you can attach to an email.
How should I respond when an interviewer asks what your current base salary is?
I spent the past 10 years as a recruiter interviewing thousands of candidates. Also, as the Co-Founder of Betterteam (a recruitment platform for small businesses). I have a lot of real world data on salaries and the negotiation process.When I get a new application from a candidate I always start with a phone interview. After a quick introduction the first question I ask is:"What is your current salary? and what do you expect for a new role?"I ask this first as I nearly always get an honest answer. Out of 38 of my most recent interviews 28 provided current salary, 4 did not as it was for a role in another country so was not relevant, and 6 could have provided current salary but chose not to. All 38 told me what their expected salary was.Nearly all candidates misunderstand why this question is being asked and will take bad advice to not answer it which impacts more than just their prospects of getting past the first interview.So why do companies ask you what your current salary is?1. Gathering salary data to use as a battering ram.I compile all the current and expected salary data into a sheet and use this to beat the management team about the head till I get a salary band approved which is exactly what the market is paying. I went through this with a role recently where I interviewed 38 candidates for a role and got 28 current salaries and 38 expected salaries. Compiling all the current and expected data into a sheet I was able to get the salary band for the role pushed up by over 25%. Not knowing your current salary makes this extremely difficult as I cant say "well you guys are paying below what candidates are already on so nobody will take a step backwards."2. Easy filtering.The quickest way to get an idea of your seniority is to ask what your current salary is. A software developer on $100k and a developer on $150k are fundamentally different candidates. The issue is these two candidates will often apply to the same role so you need an easy way to filter out candidates that are too junior and too senior for the role you are hiring for.3. Interviewing you at the right level.A $100k dev and a $180k dev are going to be put through entirely different interview processes. If I put a $100k dev through the $180k dev process they will fail. If I put the $180k dev through the $100k process they will fly through it and then get a lowball offer. To fix this we then have to go back and put them through the correct interview process which almost never happens. In reality they just decline you as a candidate and move on.4. Affordability.Assuming the company already pays market rate for this role if you are already paid more than this then it is unlikely this role is a fit. In all the hundreds of placements I have made I can only think of a handful where a candidate accepted a new role for less than what they were being paid now and in all those cases they were did not last long in the role.5. It is not to low ball youIf you say you are on $100k and want $110k and are vastly better than other candidates asking for significantly more than it is obvious you are below market. This is very common with employees who have not switched jobs for a few years. As a rule I usually see candidates falling 5% behind market for each year they stay in a role. Pay rises rarely keep pace with the market but this does not mean you  should switch jobs often. That will have the opposite effect and have you labelled as a "job hopper" which will kill your career. Companies know that if they offer a great candidate a below market salary they run a real risk of another company offering a better salary and losing them.Now. How should you answer the question of "what is your current salary"?Be honest and tell them what you are on now and then quickly add in the salary levels for the roles you are interviewing for elsewhere.As you start getting offers coming in from other roles share that information with the company you want to work for. Try not to lie as you may get caught out. A competitor about to steal a great candidate is the best lever in the world to get you the right salary.If you are uncomfortable with 1 and 2 then ask the recruiter/hiring manager what the market rate is for a role at this level. Note use the words "market rate" not "how much are you paying" as that will come across as less confrontational.If you are that rare A+++ amazing candidate you can get salaries significantly in excess of the market rate but only if you apply to the right companies that have the flexibility to hire outside the salary band. My record is 3.5x the previously highest paid person on the team but it is very very rare.Final thoughts:If you somehow do manage to get a role paying significantly more than what you are worth you are going to have a terrible time trying to meet expectations. If somebody buys a Ferrari they are not expecting a bicycle with a Ferrari bodykit :)If you take a role below what you are really worth then you make it much harder for candidates behind you to get the right salary and you will most likely get headhunted for a better role. If a company thinks they can buy X for $Y they will never buy X for $Z.